Thought For The Day #184
DO I LOVE MYSELF?
So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself;
Do I love myself? What a foolish question, one might say. Let us consider the validity of this thought. Perhaps we love ourselves less than we think.
God has made it very plain that man and wife become one flesh upon entering into a commitment of marriage. Oh, the excitement we find in the beauty of our mate. We want to do everything we can to make her happy, to meet her needs, and to full her dreams. We anticipate a perfect marriage as God intended.
Tragically, this beautiful anticipation fades into disillusionment and despair for many.
The pressures of life and its disappointments become so prevalent that they push their vibrant love into the background. The white hot romance that once blazed in their hearts withers to a dying ember. Tender words and caring action for their mate drift into the dimming memories of the past.
Like a robot, they face the drudgery of schedules and responsibilities that they have placed upon themselves. They forget to nurture the most valuable part of their existence, the precious wife that they received with such excitement and anticipation.
Love yourself! Nurture your wife! She is the other half of you. Exchange your inner frustrations for renewed appreciation of your wife. Value the many things that she brings to the marriage. Extend understanding and loving comfort to her. Take notice of the many things she does to meet your needs and make you happy. Your devotion for her will transform your feelings of failure and frustration.
Man, once united in marriage, will never be happy until he fulfills the command given in Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her,”
Marriage is an ongoing cycle. Love produces love. Man cannot love himself unless he loves his wife. He cannot love his wife unless he loves himself.